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18 October 2016 @ 11:24 am
"Weat Asahi Coffe deal with coffee making while treating every single dean affection ately"  
I feel that your life can be divided into different stages.
One of the stages is when you're young, you don't know what the world is going to do to you, you don't know if you're going to have anything to offer. It's a time of dreaming, trying, worried, going out on a limb, and giving it your all.

I had dinner with a friend. She's a young graduate with a temporary job as a teacher, living with her parents, and she wants to move to Tanzania some day and change the world. When she speaks, energy pours out of her, her face is brilliant, she's ready to take on anything, she's ready to endure anything, and she's going to. She's going to go places. She's going to change things. People are going to love her, she's going to learn new languages and new cultures. I don't know if she's going to end up in Tanzania ever, or if she'll change the world or not, but she's in stage one of her life and she can afford to dream big.

I felt kind of guilty after talking with her. What am I doing with my life? Why am I not going running every morning, trying to get in shape so I can tackle the problems of sustainable farming in distant lands?

Then I remembered, I'm in stage 2.

I went on a hike with another friend and we talked about our jobs, and how we got there, and our responsibilities and salaries. We stopped to look out on a breathtaking view of the city in the morning light, with the grey sea as a backdrop. When I stand there, I always feel like - I did it! I'm in a position in my life where I have what I want, I'm right where I need to be, and I'm on top of a mountain, at liberty to enjoy the view. Work can be tough, stress can pile up, and I miss Yossi a lot, but I have stability and inner joy.

Stage 2 is where you're not throwing yourself to the wind anymore, but you're putting down roots. You can afford to think about the future. You can make plans. Jumping off to volunteer to save bird species in Indonesia is still appealing, mind you, but so is sitting out on your porch and enjoying a book with a nice cup of tea. We start buying houses and having babies.

Most of the people we hire at my company are these Stage 1 people. They're a bundle of energy ready to jump over to Japan and spread their beautiful languages and cultures around the world. And some of them bounce away just as quickly as they came in. Others morph over in to Stage 2 and settle down.

I used to be one of these energetic people, but now I'm not. I guess that's what it means to feel "old." Age doesn't really have anything to do with it, though, it's a mental framework. Some people tell me they have a hard time getting along with people their own age. Is it an age thing or is it a stage thing?

You can stay in Stage 1 your whole life, always dreaming big. I have a friend who's older than me. She's spends every moment outside of her work helping women find employment, promoting fair trade, and trying to make the world a better place. Most of her friends are much younger than me, all in stage 1.

Instead of feeling guilty about leaving Stage 1 and settling down in Stage 2, I do what I can to support them.
I donate money regularly to sponsor people I think can make a real difference in this world.
I vote for people who will give these Stage 1 folks as many opportunities as possible.
I buy things from people to support the ideas behind the products they make.
I spread the word and help people make connections with each other.

My free time is going to be dedicated to hiking, painting, and reading books while drinking tea. But just because I'm in Stage 2 now doesn't mean I can't support Stage 1.

Does anyone else feel this way? Like life comes in stages?
I don't know about Stage 3 or 4 or if there is any... Maybe you older folks can give me some insight!


P.S. I didn't talk about Japan this time, sorry. Have a picture of a dragonfly: http://www.randomisgod.com/pictures/IMG_8478Dragonfly.JPG